"How to ungaslight my child?"

Are you co-parenting with a narcissistic partner or an ex?

Would you like a strategy to support your children immediately before you can invest your time and money in recovering from narcissistic abuse?

"It’s exhausting and it feels like a never ending uphill battle."

"The scariest part is knowing that 50% of the time my children are with the narcissist and I am not there to protect them"

"The sweetness of childhood has no chance with a narcissist. It's layers of hell"

"It's hard to be truthful and positive at the same time"

If you are in this space, this 4 week online group coaching programme may be just right for you.

The programme is the oxygen mask for you and your children until the plane lands safely on the ground.

It’s hard to face the stress and anxiety of children going between two households, being exposed to traumatic conversations, hearing you being trashed by the other parent, watching your children go through other abusive, neglectful parenting from the narcissistic co-parent.

Would you like Immediate and Practical support?

Would you like to connect with your children and help them thrive?

How would you feel if you had the opportunity to learn and master the skills to:

Stay calm when children act out
Support children and be emotionally available when the children show anxiety
Know what to say to your children when they ask difficult questions
provide consistency for your children amidst the chaos of going between two households
Support the children through their grief of the separation
Support children when they release suppressed emotions when they return from the narcissistic parent’s house
Support children to process their difficult emotions
Communicate powerfully with the children as well as the narcissistic partner/ex about children’s needs
Know how to set boundaries and maintain those boundaries

Sign me up please!

One of the most difficult aspects of this process is to FEEL your children DISCONNECT from you and watch them go through anxiety and stress themselves. Occasionally, you may experience aggressive behaviours from your children towards you.

But, it doesn’t have to be that way. I can help you connect with children, minimise the impact the children are experiencing. The four weeks coaching programme will help you and your children get ready to do the deep work to recover from narcissistic abuse.

Children who grow up with narcissistic parents are likely to struggle with:

Codependency in other relationships
Behavioural problems at school
Difficulty in forming healthy relationships i.e friendships at school etc.
Self harming / suicidal thoughts
Weak sense of self
Poor interpersonal boundaries
Inability to say no
Chronic guilt / shame
Self-loathing
Trust issues
Anxiety / depression or other severe mental health problems
Being a people pleaser
Chronic illnesses

But, did you know that you have the power to stop your children developing those unhelpful coping mechanisms through the connection you build with them?

The programme

You will integrate everything you learn by taking actions during the sessions.

WEEK 01

Create mental and physical space for you.
Understanding your boundaries and practising how to ask for help being organised
Q & A
Diarise actions

WEEK 02

Learning the 4 pillars:

Pillar 01 - Offering smooth transition
Pillar 02 - Provide alternative environments for fun and alight activities
Q & A
Diarise actions

WEEK 03

Learning the 4 pillars:

Pillar 03: Self regulation and co-regulation (each child is different in the way they regulate)
Pillar 04: Be present / use critical thinking to communicate
Q & A
Diarise actions

WEEK 04

6 steps to connect with your children - Breaking old patterns to build a healthy attachment with children
Q & A
Diarise actions

What you will receive during the Coaching Programme

Weekly coaching calls with me (4x1hr)
Lifetime access to content
Done for you questions and statements that you can use with your children
Easy to follow tools to help your children regulate
Guidance to help your children build resilience

Bonus:

You can book a follow up call for 1.5 hours for just £100. Just use the code GroupFeb23. (usual fee is £225)

Starting 22nd of Feb 2023 7 pm GMT for four weeks.

Investment £150 (£100 until the end of January)

This is practical programme, so please book your diary in advance if you would like to sign up.

It’s o.k if your children interrupt occasionally! It happens. (Just mute so that the others aren’t interrupted)

This Programme is ideal if you resonate with the following.

You are excited to build a lasting, trusting relationship with your children

You want to support your children to attract healthy relationships in their lives despite having a narcissistic parent

You feel exhausted and you want your energy back for you and your children.

Your children know that your partner/ex partner is hurting you. That’s painful for them and they feel like they have to protect you.

You can’t remember the last time you had fun with your children and you want to enjoy them by being present in their lives

You feel sick worrying about the same, doubt, manipulation, fear and inferiority that your children are experiencing when they are with the narcissistic parent and you want to be present for yourself and create a healthy environment when they are with you

You are worried about the fact that the narcissistic parent is installing opposite values and engaging in extremely permissive parenting to offset your best effort in parenting. You want to role model trusting relationships and boundaries so that your children grow up feeling confident and contained.

You find your children’s needs overwhelming and then you feel guilty, worried and sad when you have lost your patience with them. You want to stop this cycle from happening frequently.

You have been taking talking therapy but it feels like nothing is changing. You are looking for approaches that have the capacity to help you.

What this programme is NOT about:

Solving all your problems in 4 sessions
Giving you false promises and telling you that it’s all going to be rainbows and unicorns if you work with me. Recovering from narcissistic abuse and helping your children through their adverse experience is definitely not unicorns and rainbows.
Me telling you that applying one tool is going to suddenly heal you - healing doesn’t happen that way. You also have to consider that you can’t bubble wrap your children and they have their own journeys to go through.
Giving you any financial and legal advice - I am not qualified to do so. But, if you do like such information, let me know and I can arrange another workshop with a fantastic Family Law expert who is a great colleague of mine.

This Group Coaching Programme is Not for you if you are

Looking for quick fixes
Looking to offload your issues and talk about it
Looking to blame the narcissist and not take any responsibility for your own power in parenting
Your children have grown up and they are living their own lives
You are in immediate danger of domestic abuse
You are experiencing acute depression and other mental health concerns that needs medical attention
You believe your calendar is fully booked all the time and you won’t have time to put actions into practice.
You are one of those individuals who likes to attend workshops and gain knowledge but not want to do anything to change the circumstances.
Looking for answers for all your problems.
Averse to holistic therapy. I use holistic tools, life coaching and NLP. I am not a clinical psychologist or a licensed mental health practitioner. I am an advanced EFT and a Matrix Reimprnting Practitioner, ICF accredited Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I have been teaching for almost 20 years. I hold three university degrees, all related to teaching in addition to my coaching and holistic therapy training. My qualifications.

Possibilities:

Just imagine being able to create the best connection with your children based on trust. Imagine your relationship being built based on empathy and healthy attachment. Imagine, moments where you feel joy and laughter with your children. Can you feel that energy between you and your children even when you are not in the same room? Can you feel those moments where you reach out to them and apologize for losing your temper and being able to forgive and move on. Can you imagine where your children trust you and your connection instead of the lies the other parent or their enablers are saying?

My intention is to be as transparent as possible with you. So, I would like to highlight some limitations that we might face.

Limitations:

Children tend to develop anxiety and some negative core beliefs. I doubt that they will be fully immune from this. Instead of projecting blame at yourself when you see this, seek professional help and your support to them. Accept that your children have the right to say ‘No’ to therapy. They will accept it when it’s the right time for them. All we can do is to make therapy accessible, normal and positive.
Children may choose their narcissistic parent over you despite your best effort. However, when you know you have done your best, that may help you grieve and accept that our children have their own journeys to go through. We can’t bubble wrap them or be in the way of their own life learning.
Children may themselves develop narcissistic behaviours. Despite your empathy, love and healthy attachment, there’s a possibility that your children may grow up to be narcissistic. That’s why it’s important for you to learn the boundaries so that you don’t get victimised again by your own children.

If you believe that you will benefit from this programme, please do sign up. If this is not the programme for you and you believe you will benefit more from 1-2-1 work, please check out Working with me Individually page. Before signing up, please download the e-book on Co-parenting with a Narcissistic Partner or Ex. It will give you a basic understanding of the different types of narcissists and the recovery process.

Investment £150 (£100 if you sign up before 31st of January)

Start date : 22nd of February 2023.
Duration : 4 Weeks
Time : 7pm - 8pm GMT (Online)

Any questions, please email me via nisanka@coachingwithnisanka.com

Are you co-parenting with a narcissistic partner or an ex?

"It’s exhausting and it feels like a never ending uphill battle."

"The scariest part is knowing that 50% of the time my children are with the narcissist and I am not there to protect them"

"The sweetness of childhood has no chance with a narcissist. It's layers of hell"

"It's hard to be truthful and positive at the same time"

If you are in this space, this 4 week online group coaching programme may be just right for you.

​​ The programme is the oxygen mask for you and your children until the plane lands safely on the ground.

How would you feel if you had the opportunity to learn and master the skills to:

Stay calm when children act out

Support children and be emotionally available when the children show anxiety

Know what to say to your children when they ask difficult questions

provide consistency for your children amidst the chaos of going between two households

Support the children through their grief of the separation

Support children when they release suppressed emotions when they return from the narcissistic parent’s house

Support children to process their difficult emotions

Communicate powerfully with the children as well as the narcissistic partner/ex about children’s needs

Know how to set boundaries and maintain those boundaries ​

Children who grow up with narcissistic parents are likely to struggle with:

​

Codependency in other relationships

Behavioural problems at school

Difficulty in forming healthy relationships i.e friendships at school etc.

Self harming / suicidal thoughts

Weak sense of self

Poor interpersonal boundaries

Inability to say no

Chronic guilt / shame

Self-loathing

Trust issues

Anxiety / depression or other severe mental health problems

Being a people pleaser

Chronic illnesses

But, did you know that you have the power to stop your children developing those unhelpful coping mechanisms through the connection you build with them?

The programme You will integrate everything you learn by taking actions during the sessions.

WEEK 01

WEEK 02

WEEK 03

WEEK 04

What you will receive during the Coaching Programme

Weekly coaching calls with me (4x1hr)

Lifetime access to content

Done for you questions and statements that you can use with your children

Easy to follow tools to help your children regulate

Guidance to help your children build resilience

​

Bonus:

You can book a follow up call for 1.5 hours for just £100. Just use the code GroupFeb23. (usual fee is £225)

Starting 22nd of Feb 2023 7 pm GMT for four weeks.

Investment £150 (£100 until the end of January)

This is practical programme, so please book your diary in advance if you would like to sign up.

It’s o.k if your children interrupt occasionally! It happens. (Just mute so that the others aren’t interrupted)

This Programme is ideal if you resonate with the following.

You are excited to build a lasting, trusting relationship with your children

You want to support your children to attract healthy relationships in their lives despite having a narcissistic parent

You feel exhausted and you want your energy back for you and your children.

Your children know that your partner/ex partner is hurting you. That’s painful for them and they feel like they have to protect you.

You can’t remember the last time you had fun with your children and you want to enjoy them by being present in their lives

You feel sick worrying about the same, doubt, manipulation, fear and inferiority that your children are experiencing when they are with the narcissistic parent and you want to be present for yourself and create a healthy environment when they are with you

You find your children’s needs overwhelming and then you feel guilty, worried and sad when you have lost your patience with them. You want to stop this cycle from happening frequently.

​

You have been taking talking therapy but it feels like nothing is changing. You are looking for approaches that have the capacity to help you.

What this programme is NOT about:

Solving all your problems in 4 sessions

Giving you false promises and telling you that it’s all going to be rainbows and unicorns if you work with me. Recovering from narcissistic abuse and helping your children through their adverse experience is definitely not unicorns and rainbows.

Me telling you that applying one tool is going to suddenly heal you - healing doesn’t happen that way. You also have to consider that you can’t bubble wrap your children and they have their own journeys to go through.

Giving you any financial and legal advice - I am not qualified to do so. But, if you do like such information, let me know and I can arrange another workshop with a fantastic Family Law expert who is a great colleague of mine.

This Group Coaching Programme is Not for you if you are

Looking for quick fixes

Looking to offload your issues and talk about it

Looking to blame the narcissist and not take any responsibility for your own power in parenting

Your children have grown up and they are living their own lives

You are in immediate danger of domestic abuse

You are experiencing acute depression and other mental health concerns that needs medical attention

You believe your calendar is fully booked all the time and you won’t have time to put actions into practice.

You are one of those individuals who likes to attend workshops and gain knowledge but not want to do anything to change the circumstances.

Looking for answers for all your problems.

Possibilities:

Limitations:

Children may choose their narcissistic parent over you despite your best effort. However, when you know you have done your best, that may help you grieve and accept that our children have their own journeys to go through. We can’t bubble wrap them or be in the way of their own life learning.

Please sign me up!

The programme is the oxygen mask for you and your children until the plane lands safely on the ground.

Know how to set boundaries and maintain those boundaries

The programme

You will integrate everything you learn by taking actions during the sessions.